Looking after Number One
Well things seemed to be
getting better after the
minor disaster of last week, but I think I spoke too soon. It all came crashing down again yesterday, just as I was coming close to catching up with my backlog of work and lack of sleep.
First of all I became violently ill. I think it was food poisoning, and in fact I
hope it was, because the symptoms are also rather close to a bug that's apparently been going round and takes a few weeks to shift. At one point last night I was running a terrible fever, and I threw up, which is something that hardly ever happens to me. At this point my temperature's back to normal and I've held down a simple breakfast (porridge). If I can eat my lunch (I have some congee on the go at the moment) I'll revert to real food for dinner. I'm still feeling pretty grotty, but I think this is down to having slept very badly and needing to replenish sugars.
Coincident with this, just to make it even more fun, we had the first significant rain since my roof was supposedly repaired. And guess what? It still leaks. Far less drama this time, because I was at home when it started, so I managed to move everything out of the study before anything important got wet, and catch most of the water in buckets (of which I now have 6 in the room). More ceiling collapsed though (in the middle of the night, as if fever and puking weren't disturbing my sleep enough), and now I just have a strong feeling that this is going to be an ongoing saga.
I have decided, therefore, that I have to move. Anyway I had been thinking it's about time I lived alone, partly because that idea no longer scares me in the way it used to, and partly because I seem to have lost my tolerance for sharing space (let's be perfectly clear on this—I live in a spacious house with a couple of easygoing, quiet people—the problem
is with me), but the many good things about this house combined with the amount I have on my plate already had left me thinking I shouldn't bother for a while. Now I just have to wash my hands of this leaking roof situation.
I told Richard (from whom I sublet) this morning, and I felt absolutely terrible about telling him. He's trying to convince me to stay, and I'm being far too weak in the face of this, but really I know I have to go. I don't understand why I find this so hard. Sure I'm leaving Richard with trouble on his hands (both the leak itself and the difficulty of filling a room at a time that isn't a natural break in the academic year), but it's trouble that I didn't create for him, and I keep telling myself that nothing I've done has made anything worse.
The importance of not being my brother's keeper is a lesson that it's taking me a very long time to learn.